keep it in the safe, not on the counter.

So, heres what i think.

Most people 'fall in love' too easily. Far too easily. No real live courtship necessary. Then, even worse than that, they put it on display prematurely for the other party, who probably doesnt deserve even a fraction of that love.

Not ONLY do i think most people 'fall in love' too easily, i also think i know why.

You spend all of this time dreaming and hoping. Waiting for this special type of person to come along and woo. Sweep you off of your feet. Make you feel as light as feathers do. Doodling last names, picturing family life. Fantasizing about perfect pillow talk and spooning. Early morning exchanges of affection and endearment. Incomparable kisses as the prelude to a lovely night. So on and so forth. With all of this fantasizing, you fall in love with the idea of the person who could fill that space in your fantasy. The feelings come to exist before the actual relationship does. You create a subconscious hope that whomever you end up with will become who you want them to be. When they dont, it doesnt work out and youre disappointed. Busily blaming the other party, when its actually the fault of unrealistic expectations. Think about it, and admit it.

Now im not saying that it is impossible to find that super duper jupiter love. I believe. Im just saying, people dont pay attention. They use new relationships as an intoxicant. Taking hits of the drug that is newness. Allowing emotion derived from a mere fantasy to preceed logic. Emotions take over by them imagining they are about to have what they've been fantasizing about.

LOOK and LISTEN to the person you are with. You know in your heart and soul whether or not this is it. We need to start thinking about these things before entering into relationships. Be honest with ourselves. Dont be a victim of loneliness. That wont take you anywhere near where u need to be. It'll just fill a void until you realize there is alot more missing. Then it starts all over again. Break the cycle.

Fin